12 January 2022
UPDATE February 13, 2016
I have finally decided on a new name for this post, which will not continue on this thread but as a new post:
I have not been updating this post as regularly as I intended. I have two items for you to think about today. One is a comment from a psychologist; I think it is extremely important to hear from a professional, as to how this entire situation can affect the well-being of one caught up in it. The comment was made in the context of the 2 meetings that were organized to offer people a chance to talk openly without any fear of being exposed; June 15, 2013 & March 29, 2014 (which Dr. Young was scheduled for but missed due to illness). The second item is an actual obituary for “J” for whom you will now see his actual name. I have been reluctant to post it but it has to come out eventually. I would expect ALL to respect the privacy of his family in Sweden.
One last thing for today. Many have commented as to how they cannot understand (or even don’t believe this story because of this) how a father could do such a thing with two young children. I suspect those who outright disbelieve it do not actually have children. Any honest parent will admit to the difficulty of the constant sacrifice required and how sometimes it simply is too much. Parents are not saints and they suffer the same myriad of issues as anyone else. And it is common knowledge in the counselling world that people who commit suicide feel extreme guilt at being the source of a problem, so the solution, in order to protect, is to take themselves out of the equation. No one would question a parent putting themself in front of a car to protect a child (even one who wasn’t their own). On a certain level, it is exactly the same thing. Life is not neat and tidy and clear sometimes. Continue reading

